Let’s Talk: Is Age Just A Number?
I once fell in love with a guy who was younger than I was. Yes, you read that right. We didn’t work out for important reasons (the age was NOT one of them. lol). But I can say one or two things when somebody asks me, “Is age just a number?” Safe to say at this point in my life, I am not trying to think about if it’s possible to date a guy who’s younger than I. Rather, I should be considering if I want to date such a person or not.
But really, I’ve thought about this again and again. Would my relationship with this guy have worked out in the long run? I really don’t know. It might have worked out if he didn’t end up a childish person or if I didn’t turn out a bossy person. But I can’t say because it didn’t work out outside of the age reason. P.S: He was not childish, neither was I bossy.
I do not think there’s anything wrong with dating someone who is younger than you as a lady or dating someone older as a guy. But I really do not think, also, that that’s one situation I would ever like to be in. Not because I won’t respect him but because it would take a whole lot of persuasion for me to actually believe that he won’t ever see any actions on my part as being done because I’m older.
Somebody once told my ex that I was domineering simply because he saw me open a door without allowing my Ex open it while we were walking together. I will never be able to understand the correlation between opening a door myself while my boyfriend was there and being domineering. That’s not the point I am trying to drive at, anyway, but what I am saying is, if I could actually be seen as domineering because of something as irrelevant as that, what would have happened if I was older? He probably would have thought I was doing everything I was doing because he was younger. Too much headache abeg.
So, for me, I’d say it would take a whole lot of maturity on both sides to deal with a relationship that is against status quo. First, the guy mustn’t have insecurity issues. Else, he might wrongly infer that she’s doing everything she is doing because she is older. I mean, she won’t be able to voice out her displeasure, won’t be able to offer help or whatever simply because, “Is it because you’re older than I am?”
On the other hand, the woman must also be ready to “forget” her age in the relationship. Else, she’ll begin to wonder why she offered to date or marry someone who “acts his age” (you know what that means abi?)
At the end of the day, relationships are not defined by age but by how much we’re ready to accommodate the other person, deal with their strengths and faults and how much we’re ready to actually make the relationship work.
Can I date a guy who’s younger than I am? Yes, definitely, I can. Well, I guess I can.
As usual, I did a poll asking people if age was just a number and I got some responses. Big thanks to everyone who responded. Below are some of the responses I got. Enjoy them and don’t forget to drop your comments before leaving. Thank you! Just in case you want to connect with me on social media, you can follow me on any of these platforms. I’d love to hear from you anytime!
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How Small Chops Made Me The Boss At Work Today
Hiiiii. So, I’m telling you this gist on a full tummy of small chops and sorry I do not mean to make you salivate. But I figured I didn’t want to keep this gist to myself and that’s why I’m telling you.
About two weeks ago, someone on twitter started a giveaway thread where people could give whatever they wanted to give to anybody who wanted them. I went through the thread o as per there is nothing God cannuh do and I saw a twitter handle (@smallChopsng) saying they had a box of beautiful small chops that could feed six people and they were going to give for free. Aye mi! Izz like you peepu deenuh know that Jollof rice is King while small chops are the second in command.
For my non-Nigerian readers, “small chops” refers to a collection of different snacks that are small in size but are perfectly complementary and are usually put in a pack or served on small plates in parties.
As I saw the tweet, I ran into their DM to collect it. *side eye* Yes, I wanted to collect it. So I was told they were going to do a poll because they had already had a number of requests. I wasn’t the only one who wanted small chops after all. I almost gave up because I just thought that if they were going to do a poll then I wasn’t sure I was going to win. This was because I had never done won a giveaway before and didn’t know how to start scouting for votes.
On Thursday, @burmese_tyga did the poll and after asking some people to vote for me, I won the poll. I had a friend (@itannaoluwa) who even asked his followers to vote for me. To God be the glory, the promise of the small chops was mine and I had to await the delivery today, Monday.
I had already decided I wouldn’t buy lunch today so I was eagerly waiting for the delivery guy to come deliver. Around past 11, I received a call from someone from smallChopsng. My God, my joy knew no bounds. I sprang up from my office chair and ran downstairs to meet the guy.
I arrived at the guy’s bike just as he brought out the box from his bike container. I wanted to faint with excitement. Like Chisos! Why’s it so big! The box of small chops actually looked like a box of pizza. No, I think it looked like a box of cake. I fell in love with the colour of the package (My God, the package was too fine. Very simple but very fine) and I majestically carried the box into my office.
“Fisayo! Rufus! Shey you remember that small chops giveaway I said you people should vote for me for? I won!”, I exclaimed, placing the box on the table. I felt so fulfilled.
The small chops were plentyyy o. There were:
-Six Pieces of chicken, not kinkini chicken o. And the chicken was grilled, way better than fried ones.
-Six pieces of meat, I think they were slightly peppered, can’t remember. But they were sizeable and tasty, not like those 50naira meats food sellers usually sell.
-Six pieces of spring rolls. I first tasted spring rolls at a function seven years ago and I have been in love with it ever since. I usually reserve my spring rolls for the last simply because I love them. They had a smooth taste and were succulent.
-Six pieces of Samosa. You know that triangular snack you always find in a small chops pack? Yes. After spring rolls, I love these ones next. I loved how they put some corn and delicious pieces of meat. I didn’t want to finish it.
-Multiple Pieces of Mosa. You know that snack that looks like puff-puff but tastes like honey and milk and is chocolate brown in colour? It tasted like it was from the land flowing with milk and honey (Bible people should understand that)
-Multiple pieces of puff-puff. I liked the puff-puff because they weren’t burnt but I don’t really like puff-puffs so…
So how did small chops make me a boss at work today? I shared it amongst all my colleagues. Loool. It was for 6 people na. How could I have finished it alone? I have also taken some for my younger sister, Olawunmi, at home. Sadly, my grandma, who I stay with, no longer has teeth for small chops. She’ll have to stick to Ogi.
Big thanks to SmallChopsng for making me have a merry Christmas. Forget, even if I don’t eat Christmas chicken or party jollof rice this Christmas, I am already okay.
If you would like to check them out, you could visit their website http://www.smallChops.ng and you could follow them on twitter (@smallChopsng) and on Instagram (@smallChopsng)
P.S: I am still accepting Christmas gifts so don’t be afraid to reach out to me o.
Read This: Can I Take A Cheating Partner Back?
Asking if I can take a cheating partner back is quite a sensitive question! Lol. I did my usual weekly question-and-answer session last week asking this question, “Can you take a cheating partner back?” Oh, let me gist you. So a few weeks ago, I started asking controversial questions on my social media platforms starting with my whatsapp. It’s been fun for me because I have always loved to have people share their opinions about issues. For me, it makes me see how “different” they can be. I just think I’d be focusing on doing this more often till I probably get bored or till something else interests me. Haha. Okay, so I took this last “episode” to an extra level. I did designs of some of the responses I received after work on a particular day. You’ll get to see them once you scroll down. But before you do, biko, read this one finish first.
I have always said it that I can forgive anything but cheating. For me, cheating is a NO-HELL-NO! I can’t even deal. I can’t imagine it. I can be a very jealous lover and so, if you are my man, you are MY man. So, if my partner cheats on me, taking him back would be one hell of a job. Now see, I don’t know if it’s true for every other person, but cheating would make me go into my shell and start asking myself all the deep questions of my life. “Why would he cheat?”, “Was I not enough?”, “What did she give him?” etc. I will never be able to understand or see a reason why he would cheat on me and it would definitely reflect in my relations with him.
But, can I take a cheating partner back? I really do not know. I have a feeling that all the standards of not taking a cheating partner back may fall flat if he is a guy I really love. I have never been in such a situation before so it’s really quite hard for me to tell right now. Would I be hurt if my partner cheats on me? Yes, definitely. Would I consider breaking up? Yes, I would. If not totally, I’d still have to take a break to clear my head first.
Also, I think the consideration of taking back a partner who has cheated is greatly dependent on the status of the relationship. For one, it is easier to forgive and get back with a partner who has cheated on you if you both are already married. However, if you’re not married, it would take a lot of conviction to get back together. Marriage just has a way of changing the whole equation. You know, marriage is quite hard to break off than a relationship, or so I heard.
So, can I take a cheating partner back? *insert whatsapp sad side-eye* I actually can. Would I take a cheating partner back? If we’re married, yes I would *insert whatsapp dejected smiley here* but IF WE ARE NOT MARRIED, collect faya back! I might. I might not.
At the end of the day anyway, I think it depends, for most relationships, on how well the offender is able to convince the offended one to take him/her back, as well as how much damage has been done by reason of the offence. Or, what do you think?
Check out opinions from the poll and please do drop your comments. Would you take a cheating partner back?
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